Knot without a trial run
DJ tied the knot. So did SG. PS, SK & MG are following suit soon. Gets you thinking about the institution and when you yourself will be a part of it. The idea is still extremely distant to me, apart from being equally frightening, if not a little bit naive too.
How much is a sacrifice on the altar of convention & society? How much is compromise? A short discussion last evening got me thinking...the topic was Indian parents becoming familiar with the concept of a "live in" relationship. Although we have a few movies and books dealing with this situation, its mostly an ultra urban phenomenon with most families in India blanching at the mere sign of any such intent.
However, logic & reason tell me that this is the best way to go. I would like to have done a "trial run" (for a lack of a more suitable phrase) before I walk around the fire or say 'I do'.
How would my own family react if such a situation were to occur with me? Outrage is the word that comes to mind first...followed by a total loss of all credibility & reputation amongst family. Aah the paradox of our times!
To all the men taking the plunge...ustedes tienen cojones grandes
Happiness to all the couples & couples to be...Oh and I think I may as well resign myself to being ostracised...or don't I seem like the 'live in' type?
posted by Abs @ 1/06/2006 05:23:00 PM
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I personally believe that there is a negative correlation between the disapproval of 'live in' relationships by Indian parents and the age of single child. The same can be said for cross religion/cultural relationships.
The older you get the more 'accepting' your parents will be, generally due to desperation linked to the thought that they might not have grandchildren any other way. There is also the stigma related to the sexual orientation of an older unmarried Indian to contend with - so after awhile, live in hetro relationships become almost desirable to the alternative.
My suggestion: Hold out as long as you can and living with your partner will be a welcome option for your parents.
That makes sense at least from a westernized family view point. Not sure if traditional Indian families will ever be ok with it though!
I guess I still have some years to go before the real pressure starts from parents!
Or you can choose the expensive way of make all parties happy - stay away from the hometown, pay two rents, but the linen's all in one place?
We know people doing this, and it works, doesn't it?
I on the other hand have believed for a while that I belong to the succumb category - but I'd love to prove myself wrong.
Who're SG and the others?
D: SG and others are all from my AI team
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